Showing posts with label Thanksgiving. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Thanksgiving. Show all posts

Thursday, November 20, 2014

Speaking of turkeys

My father was a hunter.  When I was very young, I thought it was because he was in the army. But once I reached school age, I realized he’d been hunting all his life.  If we were stationed anywhere within a reasonable distance, we spent most Thanksgivings on the family farm while I was in school. Friday morning the men would go out hunting rabbits and birds.  Frankly, I didn't have much interest in killing small animals but I wore the coat and carried the gun to look the part.


In my father’s later years, after hunting just about everything but what Africans call big game, he had one item on this bucket list. He wanted, as he put it, to “harvest” a turkey. After retiring from military/government service in Washington, DC, he returned with my mom to Indiana, where they both had siblings still living. 

The McConnell family farm had been sold but my mother's clan still owned acreage and livestock in the western part of the state. The woods on their farm became my dad's sanctuary. He tried bow hunting for deer, with no luck. He built a blind in a tree to watch for game but he fell asleep there one day and fell out of the tree.  He dragged himself to his truck and drove to the hospital.  After that, he stopped sitting in trees with a gun across his lap and bought a cell phone.

It was on the farm that he first caught sight of the turkey.  The bird walked proudly across the open field and seemed to know exactly where he was going. He was quite a specimen.  Dad said you could judge a turkey by his beard and this one had a very long black beard, a sign of maturity and stature in the bird world...so I'm told.

Dad watched the turkey for months and finally named him Clarence.  Why Clarence? I guess I'll never know. Dad just said Clarence this and Clarence that and we accepted it. The bird had his route and each day he would come and go the same way with Dad studying every move and nuance.

We never knew exactly when Dad shot Clarence.  He took the bird directly to the taxidermist. I prefer to think that we didn't eat him for Thanksgiving dinner when the bird showed up at Christmas time as proud as ever, showing off that big long beard, sitting right next to the fireplace, nice and warm.

The battle of man versus beast can be an honorable undertaking. I support the native Americans view of the hunt and the respect they have for their conquests. That drew me to the Na'vi in the movie Avatar, as well. My dad and Clarence had an understanding.  There was a meeting of the minds.  My father was an honorable man and I choose to believe that his "harvest" was at least in part a spiritual one. Clarence looked at peace with the world. And so did my father.

Wednesday, November 21, 2012

It's Thanksgiving


It’s getting dark outside.  The traffic began backing up at about noon today.  The day before Thanksgiving in the US is almost not a workday.  The phones don’t ring very often.  The email slows down and everyone seems to have a picture of roast turkey in their heads.  I will not be at the 6am door buster sale on Thursday morning.  It’s Thanksgiving, isn’t it?  “Black Friday” used to be the shopping day but now “Turkey Thursday” has become fair game for the merchants.  This used to a family holiday.  Now the commentators are all making jokes about the inevitable family squabbles when we all get together.  I’m sure it happens sometimes but it’s not what I remember.  My parents and grandparents are gone now but I can picture them very clearly in my mind.  We moved every year for a long time while I was growing up, but no matter where we were, we made the trip back to the farm.  It was a real homecoming. It was not a huge family gathering but with aunts and uncles and cousins and eventually grandchildren, we could put 20 or 25 people at a couple of big tables and one little one for the smallest of us.  It was a grand feast, making the side dishes while the turkey baked.  There was always a big discussion about how long to cook the bird.  It was always a difference of opinion but somehow it inevitably came out fine. Early on (read, many years ago) the Detroit Lions were the only professional football team that would play on Thanksgiving Day and they to work to find an opponent.  The dessert was planned for about the middle of the first quarter (I can’t wait to blog about Grandma’s pies, yum, yum).  Nothing much ever happened in the game until after that. Then maybe we would go outside at half-time and throw the ball around, "while the women talked". (Boy, will I hear about that remark!) The day dripped with tradition and it was really something to look forward to.  Maybe we’d even get a few flakes of snow or, even a snowstorm every few years. But it was just us.  All together. Enjoying each other’s company. There was love in the house. And it was a very American holiday. Purely American in fact.  It was Abraham Lincoln who made it so, during the Civil War yet. I like Thanksgiving.  I hope we’re not losing it to another commercialization that only points us to a special savings event. I’m already missing the left-over turkey between two slices of Wonder Bread with a lot of mayonnaise on both sides. Wonder Bread is gone and television is so full of entertainment, that there is hardly any time left to talk. I hope we do though. I hope we spend Thanksgiving day with people we love. It should be more than an American holiday.  It should be celebrated the world over, while we all take the day off from whatever we’re fighting for and simply enjoy the day together. I don’t know why I wrote this except that I noticed it was getting dark and I started to think about tomorrow and making the drive home. Let’s make it a good day. Happy Thanksgiving.